We were outside on the patio when they came over. We had met the two girls at our next-door-neighbor's* party the night before. They were cool, and they thought we were cool.
The girls, Hubby, me and the two neighbor guys were nursing slight late-party-hangovers with Bloody Mary's and beer. The mood was light and a little silly. There were some sexual undertones flitting about the energetic fields between us all, but nothing too overt. Just playful banter, really.
But, at one point, one of the girls dragged neighbor boy out the door. She wanted to get fucked. So, fuck her he did, and apparently quite well because she was beaming when they came back over a little bit later.
And, I can't quite remember when exactly the information that these two girls were underage (18 and 19, respectively - yes, it was the 18 year old who got laid) came to my attention. But, yes, it was after they'd each had a few beers, and yes, it was after the one took my neighbor's hand and led him off, and, yes, it was after I made some suggestive comments about the other girl hooking up with my husband.
Yes, it was after all of those things.
And so after they left, I wept. I wept for their mothers, who were probably clueless as to what they were doing that Saturday night and Sunday afternoon. I wept for myself, who was already fairly slutty when I was their age, although I never hung out with much older men. But, mostly I wept for my daughter, who is 8 years old and closer to the ages of those two girls than they are to mine.
And, after my bawl-fest was finished, I realized I was taught two valuable lessons ~
1. Keep my daughter under strict surveillance until she is thirty.
2. Check all ID's at the door.
And, yes. You can mark those words.
*disclaimer - my neighbor's are in their mid-20's


8 comments:
Damn......I'm locking my 5 year old up tonight....
well 18 I believe is legal age and tell me this...If a 14 year old or younger can have an abortion without parental notification or consent, whats so damn horrible about getting laid....and why do we get so upset if our daughters have sex anyway....oh I forgot girls are sluts if they have sex, guys are just studs or lucky or something else.
18 is NOT legal to drink alcohol, which I unwittingly served them. It isn't even so much about the sex. Like I said, I was having a LOT of sex at 18, just with people my own age. The whole situation just fucked with my head on so many levels. I am certainly fine with my daughter having sex some day. But, these girls were out all night, drinking and fucking men, not boys. Double standard? I have no idea. I just know that I felt weird about it. My prerogative. My blog.
And, you have to be 16 or OLDER to get an abortion without parental consent, depending on what state you live in. The issues are separate anyway....
Ooohhhh. Firestorm a 'brewin perhaps? C'mon people, leave your comments! Everyone's been so quiet lately. Surely y'all have some thoughts on this!
xo~Sadie
You have a daughter? I never knew.
Nope, Southern V. I never mentioned her until now. I told y'all I was gonna open up a little more!
well out of anything your daughter will have a great guide. Yes you can lock her up ;) but I think when she's older she will see who you are as a woman
The lessons you have learned and freedom as your mindset. Of course kids need guidence, but your honesty out of anything will be such a healthy influence on her. look at the type path you are leading... She will see this make her own judgements about you. In the beginning, she might think you're crazy. But as she gets older, your daughter will realize the enormous amount of knowledge you carry as a woman and as a human being. I know Sadie you will be honest with her about her sexuality. She's lucky.
Niko
P.S. you have a daughter? ;)
As usual, thank you Niko for being my cheerleader :)
xoxoxo~Sadie
17 is the new 18
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